You meet a person for the first time ever in your life and there is no way you can tell if that person is good or bad in five minutes. I know the terms 'good' and 'bad' are quite complex and sometimes can be very personal. So let us make things simple for now and say the person is either an angel or an asshole. You know what I mean.
Coming to the point, I went to a temple last night. As I took off my shoes and was about to go in, this guy stops me and here is the conversation between us...
Guy: Hi, do you go to NYIT?
Me: No. I don't
Guy: Columbia?
Me: No. I don't go to any school
Guy: I go to "whatever" (I forgot the name) school and I'm a transfer student here
Me: ok........
Guy: Are you usually busy?
Me: What do you mean? Why?
Guy: I want to be your friend. Can I have your phone number? I will call you and we will meet sometime during the weekend
Me: What? I don't even know who you are. I'm quite busy all the time. I can't do that
This ridiculous conversation went between us for sometime and then I forced myself out of it. Initially I felt sort of annoyed by this guy. But then pity creeped into me. He was almost begging to meet up sometime. I was not sure if he is a whacko or doesn't really have any friends.
In any case, I didn't really want to give my number. How do I know what this person is up to? You can not judge someone in such a short time unless he is a complete asshole, in which case it will be written right on his face.Labels: assholes, idiots, strangers, temple, unknown person, weird conversation |
Maybe the sole issue is not just if the person is good or bad, but also dependent or independent. A person can be good but dependent on others. Where at points the dependency is suffocating. The scenario you describe seems to paint this person that way. Yes a person can be lonely, desiring company. But coming on strong in the beginning will scare people away. We all need some private space. As two persons become more acquainted that private space gets either bigger or smaller. I can definitely understand your reaction.